A glimpse into aging

A glimpse into aging

  My parents are both turning 80 this year!  Overall, they are pretty healthy. And I hope that I’m this healthy when I hit 80.  For those of you not having grandparents around, it’s the first time experiencing what life is like getting older. My grandparents came over a few times on vacation as we grew up, since they were from Europe, so we didn’t get a realistic picture into phases of life.

Body Parts

They are both bionic, with my mom having one hip replacement and my dad having both hip replacements and both knee replacements (we loving call him the bionic man).

Hearing

My mom has trouble hearing and of course will not use a hearing aid. Having a slight hearing problem myself, I understand the concept that people just need to speak up. And of course we know what you said. Once you’ve tried a hearing aid, you understand what you’ve missed. Now I realize that when something doesn’t make sense, it most likely is I didn’t hear it right.

Eating

European cuisine has its pros and cons. It’s very very good, but at times, not the healthiest. My parents have removed most of the great foods (hungarian sausage, tartar sandwiches, schnitzel to name a few). They now eat more baked chicken, fish, oatmeal.

Exercise

I’m amazed they still try to exercise. My dad goes swimming 3x a week. My mom walks in the basement for about 20 minutes a day. We gave my mom a granny workout video years ago, she did that for a while, but has stopped that and just walks.

Comprehension

Their faculties are sill functioning. They read, listen to programs, follow the news. Things that used to be important may not be as important anymore. They have watched many friends and family move on before them. They have watched those that remained behind on picking up the pieces. My dad is one of the few men left from the group they hung out with. It’s kind of cute how he became the helper for all the other women. He drives them around and helps them with either finding someone to do work in their homes, or doing a few things himself. I told him it’s good that my mom is not the jealous type.

Passion

I think the most important piece is they both have kept their passions. My dad is a fanatic for card playing. They used to have a group of friends, we called them the card party. They would visit each other’s houses each weekend and have fun eating and playing cards. My dad has joined 2 clubs and plays cards every Wednesday. We all know not to bother him on those days to help us. It would need to be an emergency that cannot change dates for him to come help us on that day. My mom’s passion is cooking. She still makes a home cooked meal everyday. She loves to have us over and share a meal. As a memorial for my mom, I’m putting together a cookbook for my brother and sister, as well as grandchildren and great-grandchildren. They all love her cooking.  They also have a better relationship. All those things they used to argue about don’t matter anymore. They laugh more, at themselves and with each other. It’s getting a glimpse of what they were like when they first met. They seem younger and still in love.

 

So I feel that getting older is something to look forward to. Nice to know that you can end your life with the same passion and love that you started life with.

 

 

 

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11 Responses to “A glimpse into aging”

  1. Sue Walker July 7, 2011 at 11:23 AM #

    Thanks for such a positive post on growing old.

    I’m hoping that I take after my Mum! My Dad died when he was only 49, and I am now 63, so it’s looking promising. Mum was still playing badminton when she was in her 80s, and also enjoyed walking. We took her to New England for her 80th birthday treat, as it was somewhere she had always wanted to visit. She enjoyed playing cards, though she always cheated as she like to win! She died 4 years ago at the age of 84, but even at the end she was still feisty. I will always remember her sense of fun and zest of life.

    • admin July 7, 2011 at 1:00 PM #

      Sounds like she had a great life and you had great memories. That is what life is about.

  2. Amethyst July 7, 2011 at 11:26 AM #

    Nice post. Now if we only knew how to keep it going during all those “in-between” years. 🙂

  3. lynadawn July 7, 2011 at 1:40 PM #

    Wonderful post!

    Simce 60 is the new 40, that would make your folks be more 60sh…and it sounds like they are….

    I’ve been seeing that as I grow older, I take more time to appreciate life and all the little things…I’m not such a workaholic,.

    Let’s all live life to the fullest- your folks are great inspirations.

  4. Cathy Jennings July 7, 2011 at 2:32 PM #

    Nancy,

    Thanks for the glimpse into life “down the road.” I’m a “mid-lifer” right now and starting to really feel my mortality, so I have an avoidance issue with growing older. I appreciate the positive and realistic picture you’ve given.

  5. Lynn Dorman, Ph.D. July 7, 2011 at 2:37 PM #

    Love that your parents are so healthy – and that they still exercise. [Your amazement at that amazed me 🙂 ]

    Exercise is great for ongoing health of the body and the brain! It’s why more and more of us are living longer healthier lives…

    Here’s to your writing of them as they approach 90 and 100!!

    Lynn

    • admin July 7, 2011 at 2:43 PM #

      that’s right. Why set my limits in the 80’s. thanks.

  6. PeggyLee Hanson July 7, 2011 at 2:54 PM #

    What caught my eye on this post was Granny rocking in her chair! Nice pic(k)! 😉

    “Just because I’m getting older, doesn’t mean I’m dead!”

    Wish I could remember who said that! But what I do remember is my maternal grandparents living a long and happy married life of 68 years… something that my own parents did not do; my dad died at the young age of 62 from complications due to Alzheimer’s — though, they were happily married 38 years.

    As you succeeded here, a sense of humor is important all though life. My husband wants to be cremated and memorialized with the Monty Python song, “Look on the bright side of Life.” 🙂

    Great post, Nancy!

    • admin July 7, 2011 at 2:55 PM #

      love the quotes.

  7. MaryAnn D'Ambrosio July 7, 2011 at 8:09 PM #

    What a wonderful glimpse at the beauty of aging. Perspective is being able to see the extraordinary in the ordinary. Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

    MaryAnn
    http://www.LeapWithoutLimits.com

  8. Anna Berry August 24, 2011 at 1:57 PM #

    Looking at my brother and sister in-law, I can see how important it is to keep active, I am 2 1/2 years behimd my brother, and I know God had blessed me, I am still working 28 to 32 hrs a week, but, I am not looking forward to getting old, My pastor said one time “where in the bible does it say retirment” we have to keep on moving until the Lord calls us home, and that gives me hope to keep going.
    Anna Friedrich Berry

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